Dating Boundaries: Sex Talk Too Soon is a Turn Off

So you get an email or wink from a pretty good looking guy. You check out his dating profile and he seems normal enough, so you either wink back or jot him an email. Two things are about to happen, he will either 1. start off talking to you in a respectful manner or 2. start the sex talk from sentence one. I have had experience with both.

So how do you distinguish playfulness from a dirty pig? Well that one is obvious (although not so obvious to me at the time.) Unless your dating profile is filled with sexy pictures and written with a ton of sexual innuendo, then you should expect that every guy who contacts you to play it safe until you make it clear that it is OK to loosen up a bit. But any guy who approaches you with "Hey, I loved the cleavage in your profile picture," quickly hit delete and move along, I don't care how good looking he is--it only spells trouble. (And yes, that is a real line that was thrown my way!)

There are of course the guys who start out with the general superficial conversation, such as "What are your hobbies/interests, etc.?" However, I quickly put the brakes on when someone turns the conversation to, "So have you ever had sex on the first date?" or "What's your favorite position?" Really? Is that important information to know before you meet me in person? Hell to the no.

One guy who had contacted me seemed really nice and the conversation seemed to be going along fine, until one night while instant messenging he made the remark that he had a 3 date rule. Curious, I asked him what he meant. He proceeded to tell me that if a girl didn't have sex with him by date 3 he would dump her. At first I laughed it off thinking he was kidding because he hadn't even met me yet...until he continued on talking about buying me some specific sex toys as a gift in lieu of flowers. Once he started on the topic of sex, he just wouldn't stop.

Dude.

That's when I packed up my self respect and told him to hit the road. For months after that, he tried to contact me, but I just knew it wasn't worth my time. Any guy who is genuinely interested in you will treat you good right from the start.

We all have our sex talk boundaries, are yours so cut and dry as mine? Or do you give a little more leeway?