After my Friday night date and realizing I really don't want a hat trick of men with criminal records, I got to thinking: do you yield better dates off of paid dating sites or free sites? I decided I would reflect on the sites I've had profiles on to figure this out through my own totally bogus "scientific" (heavy on the quotes) research.OK Cupid: Free site. Only yielded me 1 guy so far. Dated him for a month but it was like pulling teeth to get him to actually call and not text me.
Yahoo! Personals: Pay to contact. I have met 5 guys from Yahoo. One I dated for 6 weeks, another for 3 months, two didn't make it past the first date, and then there was the guy who I fell madly in love with that broke my heart.
Chemistry.com: Pay to contact. I have dated zero guys from Chemistry.
PerfectMatch.com: Pay to contact. Again, zero.
Spark.com: Pay for contact. I'm getting emails, but everyone is from either 7 states away or England. What's up with that?
Match.com: Pay to contact. I've had extensive emailing and phone calls with guys here and really wanted to date the guys I talked with, however, I only dated 1 for six weeks. For some reason, the guys are much better looking on Match, but they seem to think they are out of my league. Ha!
Plenty of Fish: Free. All bad dates. Two 1-night stands, two that never made it past the first date and 1 convicted felon that I was falling for...obviously until I found out what a wack job he was.
My conclusion: It's obvious from reflecting on all of the sites I have tried to find dates on, that POF is not where I am going to find Mr. Right. Match and Yahoo! have seemed to find me better quality guys, with Yahoo giving me the guys I have gone out with on multiple dates for a longer length of time. I'm beginning to think that if a guy is investing the money for a pay site, then possibly he is not just using it as his personal black book. I think when my Match subscription is up, I'm switching back to Yahoo to see what happens.
What has your experience been with pay versus free dating sites?
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I find people who go on paid for sites tend to be a bit desperate. I like POF.
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I'm on OkCupid. I had lots of pervs message and "wink" at me but I did meet someone on that site. We talked for a few weeks and have been dating for just over a month. So in my eyes, OkCupid is successful.
The idea of paying to meet someone bugs me. So I refuse to join Match.com and all those places.
POF is scary sleazy to me but that just could be the guys that live in my area. I was on there for 5 minutes before I hid my account.
I have never actually tried internet dating but I hear my single friend is good. Otherwise I would probably prefer free at least if the men are weird I have more money to buy shoes... Kate xx
I dislike all forms of internet dating. Too remote for me. Much, much prefer real life. Surprisingly, women (and men, for you) are everywhere.
Amazing!
Fishy: my track record at POF is bad though. :(
Sarah: I honestly have not really had anyone contact me on OkCupid. I'm not sure why.
Kate: That is a good strategy. lol.
Wombat: Unfortunately it is slim pickens where I live, which is why I have no choice but to go online. :(
POF - bad for me. Creepy guys..
eHarmony - yes I got suckered into trying it, their commercials got me - I definitely think the guys on there are more serious for relationships but so far haven't found someone I connect with.
Not tried anything else.
This is a tough question. I had NO luck on eHarmony (and actually met some crazy dudes), but on CHemistry and Match I did pretty well. I did POF for a while, but like you it was mostly just guys looking for 1-night stands. Although it is good for the ego---I got a lot of responses from it. Chemistry worked best for me. I would say just diversify your options...do a couple of free sites and a paid site at the same time.
OR I might suggest you drop $30 and do a speed dating event just to try it out. They are kinda fun and you get the face-to-face meetings over with right away to see if you click. Most of these guys are online dating anyway, so it cuts to the chase. Just make sure you check out the options and the company guarantees you meet 15-20 guys. Some of them don't and it's not worth it.
Kate: I miss mysinglefriend! There were such awesome guys on there. I think it's much better to see how someone else sees them than themselves. The quality between that site and any other one's I've seen is amazing. Or maybe it's just guys in London *shrugs*
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