Many who are divorced may agree that one of the things lacking from their relationship was that feeling of "partnership." I can honestly say that from the get-go I never felt my ex-husband was someone I would consider my best friend or a partner I could lean on. That's pretty crazy that I was willing to overlook what is the major "glue" in a relationship.But once I got out of that unhealthy relationship I made the decision that I would overlook it no more. That is why I am really so gushy, sappy, happy over Nick. He told me from the beginning that he firmly believes in teamwork. And sure, guys (or girls) can talk a good talk, but for the first time in a long time I am in a relationship where there are actions to back up the words. And this only reinforces for me that I was not wrong to make this characteristic a priority in the person I would seek as a mate.
We both have a lot of crap going on in our lives right now, but it is a great feeling knowing I can seek refuge in what is really shaping up to be a fantastic partnership.
Have you ever been in a relationship that lacked teamwork?
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I have never had that with a person I am with but with my best friend I think we are a brilliant team shame I'm not that way inclined or I'd be sorted!
It is nice that you have found that person though =D
Lottie x
Teamwork is all very well, but sometimes us guys just want to sit on the sofa. Really, is that SO wrong? :-)
*Plentymorefishoutofwater - One Man's Dating Diary*
My ex-husband and I could never get on the same page. We were a team for any good joke we could pull off together but for all the practical stuff, it was two ships passing in the night.
I'm happy you're feeling like "two peas in a pod"! :D
Definitely! I have had two previous long term relationships (four years and seven years) and both of them were lacking that vital ingredient. Sadly, it wasn't until my current relationship that I realised how vital teamwork is.
Very cool that things are going well with Nick! I've not been married, but in relationships I can say that if you aren't on the same page and there isn't equal interest in putting effort into things together, it doesn't work. Although I'm a girl and Fishy...I like sitting on the sofa too. Usually with Daily Show and Colbert Report, so he better like them.
Child, I don't need teamwork--I need the window to stay open at night cause THIS Mexican is always hot and THAT Mexican is always COLD--so for me it's about compromise. Wish us luck!
Ack sorry for the delay in responding to all of these comments!
Lottie: I have guy friends that I am a good teammate with too. Funny how that works.
Fishy: As long as I can have the remote, then it is still about teamwork. ;)
Miss Alpha: My ex husband and I could never get on the same page about anything at all. It's a wonder we even agreed to get married in the first place.
Kellyansapanasa: That is exactly the place I am at right now. My current relationship is making me realize all that was lacking in other ones prior.
Kelly: Those are two shows I love too! I have a crush on Jon Stewart!
Nando: So warm that Mexican up. I'm sure you know how. ;)
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